Bad Sex?

Someone who wrote to me recently asked if I’d had any good sex lately. Of course, I had – but it got me thinking. Had I ever had any “bad” sex? Is there really any such thing as bad (consensual) sex? I suppose there must be, but I can’t say I’ve ever had anything I would class as actual bad sex.

I’m sure the sex I had with my high school boyfriend wasn’t particularly good by objective standards, but I thoroughly enjoyed it. I chalk all that awkward, fumbling, toothy stuff up to the sexual learning curve and treat it as practice before the “big game.” As clumsy and embarrassing as some of those sexual experiences were, I had nothing but fun at the time. If you asked me back then, I was a sexy sex goddess who thought she knew way more than I did at the time. But, while it wasn’t expert-level sex by any means, I never felt that it was bad.

During my couple of college romances, I had sex that didn’t result in an orgasm for me. This could have been because my partner wasn’t all that practiced with his pussy-fu, or more often than not an attempt to get it on while one of us (usually him) was too wasted to get me where I needed to go. While frustrating, I can’t say it was all bad. Even though the journey didn’t get me where I wanted to be, it was still a fun ride. And I was never upset that I had to sneak out of bed to finish myself off. In fact, there were some times when I enjoyed that more than the sex itself!

When I started having sex with the man who would become my one and only, he pretty much rang my bell right out of the gate. He knew just how to take care of me and I haven’t had anything close to bad sex since then. He has, on occasion, “forced” me to have sex while I was sick. Despite my protests, it always ended up being better than expected. And I can’t use the “Not tonight, honey, I have a headache” excuse because he’s learned that fucking me usually results in curing my headache. There have been nights where we’re horny but too tired to do it (especially when the girls were babies), but the fact that we are both content to masturbate together and call it a night has proven to be a perfect solution for that.

So, yeah, I’ve had some good sex lately. But only because all my sex is good in one way or another. Even if I haven’t had sex with hubby in a while, I’ve had good sex with myself – probably within the past few hours. I did worry when I started writing porn that masturbating too much would spoil my sex life – and perhaps result in some bad, or at least unsatisfying sex, but that hasn’t been the case. Masturbating one, or two, or often three times a day hasn’t diminished my sex drive – and I could probably make the argument that it may have increased it. Fingers are fine, but sometimes you just need a hard cock in there to feel truly satisfied.

That’s me. How about you? Is anyone out there having bad sex?

6 thoughts on “Bad Sex?

  1. The only bad sex I’ve had lately is the hallway sex with my wife: “Fuck you” as I pass her.

    LOL

  2. Until I read this I did think that maybe sex where I did not cum or make him cum fast enough, was bad sex… but thank you for opening my eyes or mind… or legs maybe lol but yes I enjoy sex even if I do not orgasm…or have to make myself orgasm later when he is snoring hehe thank you for sharing again Rachael.
    Jess xxxx

  3. I don’t know about bad sex. I don’t think any sex is actually bad. Unfulfilling? Yes maybe. I lived with a guy for nearly 3 years while I was at uni. He had a low sex drive and was very timid in bed. Always asking if what he was doing was ok. At the time, as now. I needed sex at least daily, ideally a couple of times a day. He needed it maybe once a week, weird I know. So yes, masturbation and my gf were what kept me sane. I did my best with Joe, but he just didn’t get it. On the couple of occasions I managed to goad and tease him into ‘fucking me”. He spoilt the whole experience, by blubbing like a baby and apologising afterwards. I had to give up on him, pity he was lovely otherwise.
    So I’ve given up on guys my age, I’m lucky that my stepdad loves to fuck, even tho he is over 60. Me and mum share him and we love love it. So now I am getting great sex. I still need to masturbate but hey, i like it.

  4. Bad sex and with you would not likely be possible. Your mind is so filled with wild sexual thoughts and ideas it would always be a wild fulfilling erotic filled trip. A trip I’d love to take.
    Your comment on fearing falling or losing your balance when cumming in the shower reminds me of my first time fucking standing up. It happened in an alley behind a pub in London. Her back was against the wall, her ass in my hands, her weight pressing down on my cock. When I came my knees went so weak I thought I was going to fall backward with both of us going onto the wet dirty ground. Fortunately I was able to recover my balance. It was a wild experience and remains one of my favorite positions especially when fucking in public.
    George

  5. I cannot say I had bad sex. When me and my girlfriend started having sex I was a little nervous but she said it was the best sex she got in some time. I can not believe I’m fucking so beautiful of a woman. Her big tits are a plus and I can not believe how wet her pussy gets. Just fingering her makes her so wet. You can hear the wet sound of my finger going in and out. So is there bad sex??? I do not believe so.

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