Grab Them by the Pussy

I’ve done my best as DMM to stay away from politics, but Trump’s recent “scandal” has brought things into my wheelhouse. Just so you know, I really don’t care who wins. I live in Massachusetts, which means my Electoral College votes will be going to Secretary Clinton regardless of how I vote (we need a system that wasn’t designed for 18th century America!), so the course of the presidential campaign is nothing more than an amusing aside for me. More important is the Mass ballot question legalizing marijuana! As far as the race for president goes, if Clinton wins, congress will block anything she wants to do and we’ll drift along with business as usual; if Trump wins, congress will block anything he wants to do and with any luck he’ll break the government to a degree that we’ll finally have to seriously consider fixing it. Basically, as I see it, we’ve got a big fat lose-lose situation on our hands. Sigh…

Regardless of all that, we’re currently being inundated by some lewd comments The Donald made a decade ago. As a woman, I’m not the least bit bothered by anything he said. Maybe I’ve been inured to such things by my secret life as a smut peddler, but I suspect if this cropped up 4 years ago (before I got so involved in porn) I would have just shrugged and chalked it up to boys being boys. Given that, what is really bothering about this scandal is the overblown media reaction to it.

Never have I seen so much appalled pearl-clutching over something so innocuously juvenile. Of course, much of this shocked approbation is motivated by political expediency and/or a drive for ratings. If I had only seen the reaction, I would have assumed a video surfaced of Trump raping a gay puppy while Ivanka pissed in his mouth and Melania butt-fucked him with a rolled up copy of the Constitution. From where I’m sitting, Donald was talking about trying to score with a married woman and saying that when you’re famous women will pretty much let you do whatever you want – such as walking up and grabbing them by the pussy. Nothing there that I find the least bit shocking or untrue.

Paul Ryan was “sickened” by the comments. Jeb Bush found them “reprehensible.” Hillary Clinton declared what he said as “horrific.” Seriously? Lewd, vulgar, crude – sure, but horrific? Puh-lease. I’m even more disturbed by the media equating his words to sexual assault. This does nothing but devalue the atrocious nature of actual sexual assault and trivializes its victims. “Locker room” talk feels like an apt description of what I heard. Put a hot mic on any two guys and within an hour and I suspect you’ll hear something just as bad or worse. Imagine if ten years ago you recorded some casual private banter between Donald Trump and Bill Clinton. What a wild dick measuring exchange that would be!

It’s not just that these reactions are ridiculously inflated, but on a personal level it makes me keenly aware of what kind of criticism I would face if my secret identity were ever discovered by friends and family. It’s easy to forget how squeamish people are about sex while inside this perverted bubble we’ve created for ourselves. If the world is so horrified by Trump’s candid comments, we’d all be burned at the stake if folks heard the kinds of things we talk about. Instead of scaring me away from all this, it instead makes me all the more grateful for this sickening, reprehensible, horrific refuge we share with one another.

The main lesson here, however, is that I’ll never be able to run for president! Thank God!

U-S-A! U-S-A! U-S-A!

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28 thoughts on “Grab Them by the Pussy

  1. Way to go, Rach! Totally agree with the BS being spewed by the press and pundits when far more important issues about the Clintons go unmentioned or delved into by that same class. Being from MA, I agree with the impotency of our vote, but doesn’t make me any less passionate about the issues. Let me also agree with the difficulty of staying quietly within our “bubble” and thanks for the opportunity to vent.

  2. Trump’s gotta go. And not for groping, “pussygate” or whatever. I get that.
    Gotta go for something else more insidious.
    Not a Clinton fan but I just can’t stand Trump & Fam.

    – A.Dan (1973)

  3. The Clinton’s disgrace and criminal activity goes back for 40 yrs. So what if Trump is a loud mouth he is a better person than Hillary ever thought about being. Read some history on the Clinton’s its all documented!

  4. Looking from abroad, I’m sorry that you have such a dreadful choice over there, but maybe that sums up politicians in general.
    But also sadly, I can’t agree about your Trump comments Rach. To my mind, a man who treats women as mere sex objects is, and will never be, a man to be respected.

    Are we wrong to expect certain standards from our leaders? Do we expect too much? Maybe.
    But for all I might look at porn, might fantasise about who I’d like to fuck, might say to myself how I’d fuck her, there’s always a line I wouldn’t cross, and I think Trump has gone way too far for a leader you can ever respect.

    But good luck, you’re probably between a rock and a hard place with your options, I just feel that you all deserve better than the choices you are faced with.

    P.S. Have you just stirred up a hornets nest…..?

  5. Your insights into this election are right on point, including reforming (or eliminating) the electoral college. I too am in a state where my vote is a moot point (NY). It has taken over two hundred years, but our two party system is about to completely devolve. Our system always worked when each party had a liberal wing and a conservative wing. Neither one can fly without both. And so,here we are, the laughing stock of the free world. Teddy Roosevelt, where are you when we need you the most!
    I’ll get off my soapbox now. Thank you, and have a wonderful day!

  6. Beautifully said, you have such insights to the world. These insights allow you to be sexual without reservation.

    The biggest impact a president has is the appointments such as EPA where regulations are in acted with Congress voting.

  7. @Tim: You’re right, Tim. It would be nice if we had men in positions of power who respected women, but we don’t. The only difference I see is that most are better at hiding their disregard for us bitches than Trump is. What’s that old saw about power corrupting? I get the sense that to be a rich and influential man is to see a cavalcade of women approaching you and desperately seeking to trade their bodies for access to your money and power. I can’t really blame these guys for losing their respect for women and objectifying them given their constant exposure to this ugly display of the evolutionary female drive for security gone haywire. Sure, all people should be respected, but there’s also something to the idea that respect is something you must earn (or at least not expect to be granted unconditionally).

  8. @ken: Yup, the Clinton’s are shady, Trump is shady, most anyone who is successful in the big league game of politics is there because they are shady. Bernie might have been on the lighter side of shady, which only means that one day they’ll probably find a hidden sex dungeon in his basement with kiddie-sized whips and chains. Our system of leadership has evolved into a profession that naturally attracts people focused on personal financial gain. With few exceptions, they are all corrupt to some degree – it’s impossible to succeed in an elected position unless you are.

  9. Rachael gets the big picture. If Trump wins it will be a landslide and because of what he represents, not so much the man. People are so sick of politicians that it is hard to find the defining difference between the parties anymore. We’re sick of the establishment and want new.

  10. At lest no one has been killed by suicide yet with Trump. I think Clinton is up to 34 now.

  11. R,
    Well put editorial! I’m so turned off by politics. Let me express my sincere thanks to you for creating and maintaing this wonderful ‘perverted bubble’ that we all share. It’s brought me so much pleasure! THANK YOU!

  12. Sadly I’ll have to disagree with you on this. The issue isn’t the “lewdness” of the comments. It is that Trump’s comments indicated his propensity for committing sexual assault and perpetrating coercive sex on women, and getting away with both because of his fame.

    There is nothing wrong with treating a woman as a sex object IF THAT IS WHAT SHE WANTS YOU TO DO. It’s another thing entirely if the principle of consent is entirely ignored.

  13. @Saul: You’re right – sexual assault is bad. However, as far as I know, all we have here is lewd talk. Maybe I missed it, but have there been any actual victims of these alleged sexual assaults who have come forward? If not, then I have to consider it nothing more than him “bragging” at this stage. (Something Trump rarely does, I know.)

  14. @Rachel Well, it’s not quite what he was discussing, but Donald is currently being served with a civil suit by a plaintiff who claims that he and Jeffrey Epstein raped her and other similarly aged girls when she was 13 years old, and then threatened to kill her family if she came forward. What makes this case possibly credible is that she has an eyewitness who’s made a sworn statement to seeing Donald rape the girl.

    Now, here at this site being 13 obviously isn’t the main issue, but Donald did, according to the suit, actually rape her-tied her down and forcibly fucked her while she pleaded with him to stop.

    He was also once accused by Ivana of raping her, a claim she was only forced to recant after a lawsuit settlement.

  15. Do you think it likely that at the next “debate”
    ( let’s rename them “Hyperbole Festivals”) an echelon of Trump’s female victims will show up to match those who embaressed Bill Clinton?

  16. @Saul: I knew dipping my toe into politics was going to bite me in the ass! LOL Even so, I want to thank you, Saul, for engaging in this discussion with an admirable level of civility which is often missing from most online discussions of sensitive topics. That being said…

    The allegations you bring up are undeniably awful. I know the current rule is to automatically accept the claims of the victim as true, but in the case of rich men being the target I have to fall back on that archaic and almost extinct principle of innocent until proven guilty. The other allegations of sexual misconduct against Trump came to nothing legally – indicating to me they were more about seeking financial reward than seeing justice done. As for the 1994 case, I have to ask the question, why now? I believe Trump is sleazy, but accusations aren’t enough on their own. I know in my earlier message all I asked was if there were any victims who’ve come forward – that was somewhat careless. What I should have asked is are there any credible victims that have come forth. In this rape case, the fact that it’s a civil case now rather than a criminal case back when it happened gives me pause. I understand that with young victims there is a reluctance to report and a legitimate fear of the consequences, but coming after him for money 22 years later doesn’t sit well with me. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m a lousy feminist when it comes to this area, but the stark fact is that I can accuse anyone of sexual assault (including you!), but an accusation alone doesn’t make it true (as we’ve seen time and time again).

    Now, after all this, it might sound like I’m defending Trump. I’m not. What I’m trying to do is criticize the media for taking “locker room” talk spoken in a relatively private context and exaggerating it into the crime of the century. I laugh at Trump for being petty and paranoid when he blames his troubles on media bias. Then the media goes ahead and proves him right by jumping all over this salacious distraction to a ridiculous degree. We know Trump doesn’t respect women. We’ve known that for years. All of his supporters know it. All of the republicans who claimed to back him knew it before they endorsed him. It’s a settled matter – the man is unworthy of the presidency for this alone. Focusing such hysterical attention on this latest example of what we already know does the entire process a huge disservice. The problem isn’t Trump – the real problem is that his promotion of sexism, racism, homophobia, and islamaphobia is either seen as a virtue by those in Hillary’s basket of deplorables or overlooked by those who are so fed up with our current leadership that they are willing to vote for an “outsider” regardless of the fact that he will most likely do great damage to our nation (either directly or indirectly).

    I don’t think Hillary should be president either. The one bright spot for me there is that we can get the whole “first female president” thing out of the way and move on. But it did occur to me earlier today – would Trump’s poor treatment of women be an issue if he wasn’t running against a woman? Maybe, but I have the sense that when two men are running against each other there’s a certain those-in-glass-houses thing at work when it comes to lobbing around charges of grabbing them by the pussy…

  17. @Les: I, too, hate to call these things debates – and that goes for all of them. What they really are is Candidate Showcases. I’m so angry that in the aftermath the media focuses on the stupid zingers instead of the fact that NONE of the candidates actually answer ANY of the questions. I expect the third showcase to be pointless – they’re just going to repeat the same things we heard in the first two. Unfit to lead (duh), missing emails (irrelevant), tax returns (no surprises there), Bill Clinton (not running), stop the immigrants (never going to happen), repeal the 2nd Amendment (never going to happen), yada, yada, yada. They’ll talk about everything that doesn’t matter, promise things the president has NO power to deliver, and whoever wins will ultimately do whatever benefits them, their party, and their corporate donors well before they even consider what’s best for the country and its citizens. What, me cynical? Hush your tongue!

  18. The issue isn’t whether the comments are often echoed by men or not. Of course they are – by teenagers and twenty-somethings. Not by men in their late 50s! The issue isn’t even the age of the guy spewing this bull – it’s the fact that he’s running for president. A trucker can say stuff like that; no one expects any different. Some lout at the end of a bar can say it – again, no one cares. Ditto for some cringe inducing celebrity on a rant – no one expects any better. But Trump is running for the highest office with vast power. Based on his own statements, he will misuse that power against some of us – women. Based on his own statements, he will embarrass us before the world. Based on his own statements, he is unfit for the office – regardless of whether he’s rep. or dem. If he wants to be a trucker or a bar lout, OK. But not to be president! Not ever!!

  19. @Christopher: Well said. Beyond the statements themselves, the fact that he’s stupid enough to say those sorts of things to a ersatz entertainment “journalist,” and the very undiplomatic way he’s responded to the criticism, only further demonstrates his unfitness.

    Of course, we may be seeing a number of accusers cropping up (a la Bill Cosby) now that this issue has become sensationalized, giving credence to the likelihood that his diarrhea of the mouth was more than just words. The sad thing is that even if he openly confessed to sexually assaulting women on a regular basis I don’t think it wouldn’t bother Trump voters in the least.

    Is there a way we can have a vote of no confidence, reject both candidates, postpone the election, and start over? Probably just get more of the same…sigh…

    We should stop thinking about it and focus on something more wholesome than politics – like PORN!

  20. The more you observe politics, the more you’ve got to admit that each party is worse than the other. Will Rogers

  21. I agree with you, Rachael. Once the media decides to run with a story, the story seems to take off on a life of it own. Actual facts become lost in the repeated telling and expansion of “the story”. Crazy…

  22. Thank you Rachael who cares what two guys are saying. The most sickening thing is here is this election and one man has to run against his opponent, the media, and his own party.

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