Titty-llation

A reader named Flower de-lurked to leave an interesting comment in response to my Titty Tanning post. He brings up some important points that I wanted to highlight and respond to.

flower
Submitted on 2015/05/30 at 5:28 am
I’m going to be the one here to urge caution with what you are doing. You are in a highly sexual state of being these days; your children are under 10, so what’s the rush? Why not wait to let the situation evolve more naturally, at their timing, rather than yours, as I think this is veering into titillation rather than education, and no child needs to be sexualized so young.

I understand these concerns, and I appreciate you voicing them, but I honestly don’t see where I’m sexualizing my children. My intention is to help them understand that nudity isn’t a crime, and that we should feel comfortable about our bodies and not be ashamed to be seen without clothes (when appropriate). I feel it would be impossible to teach them this as “naturally” if I waited much longer. If I let other social forces mold their attitudes, then all of the sudden when they are 16 began my efforts to normalize nudity it would be quite the shock and would likely only result in them distancing themselves as teens from their “crazy mom.” I believe introducing all this more organically at a younger age will make it easier for them to simply accept it as something ordinary.

I don’t know if you have children, but my kids have never lead the way when it comes to their upbringing, so I’m not sure how they will let me know what their timing is when it comes to a subject they have no awareness about. I would suggest instead that it’s my role as a parent to manage their psychological well-being as best as I can, which means it’s up to me to “evolve” their understanding of the world around them, not the other way around. If I were stripping my kids naked for the sake of getting off on it, then I would agree that your concerns were more than valid, but that’s not what’s going on here.

What I’m attempting to do is demonstrate by example that it’s okay to be comfortable in your own skin (even though I’m not entirely comfortable myself), and our bodies aren’t something that we have to obsessively hide from those we care about. If they don’t want to follow my lead, that’s fine. I still feel that as long as the message is instilled in them at this formative age, they will carry the lesson with them into adulthood whether they join me in my casual household nudism or not.

I know I would have much rather lived with the risks of being sexualized too young over being scarred by the teachings of shame and fear inflicted on me by my mother’s attitude that being seen naked (or even in your underwear) was a grave infraction and should be avoided at all costs. To do otherwise made you a bad person. Now that I think of it, maybe it was due to this repressive environment that I ended up manifesting the filthiest sexual fantasies that I could about my own family members. Hmm… But, whatever the case, I don’t want to pass on those kinds of soul-crushing inhibitions to my daughters. Because of my repressive conditioning when it comes to nudity, the inherent titillation for me of being exposed in front of others, even my girls, in unavoidable. I have no intention of letting on to them how I’m feeling in this regard, but as they get older they may eventually figure out what it means when they see my nipples getting hard. For now, all they know is Mommy doesn’t wear her clothes around us sometimes and it’s no big deal.

Thank you, Flower, for your message and for providing me the opportunity to hash this thing out some more. I know I’m not a perfect parent, and that I’m certain to make mistakes, but I’m doing the best that I can and I honestly don’t think I’m harming my girls by pursuing the path that I have chosen. It takes a lot of guts to stand up and speak out amidst a group that is unlikely to agree with you, and I commend you for that. This is, after all, a porn site, so the prevailing trend will inevitably be toward more nudity and sex, not less. One area where I may be overstepping my bounds is bringing my real life as a mom into an arena that’s primarily taboo sexual fantasy, making it too easy to conflate the two aspects of who I am and what I’m doing. I’ll try to be more mindful about that in the future.

Thanks again, Flower, and I look forward to hearing more from you (maybe about something more fun next time!). And thanks to all of those who left comments giving me encouragement and support, as well as those who shared their own experiences related to family nudity. It’s great to have people around me to help sort through the kinds of sensitive issues I can’t really discuss with my friends for fear that they wouldn’t understand. Love you all!

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5 thoughts on “Titty-llation

  1. Thank you for all your hot stories and being my friend on lush
    hope to read more very soon. This was hot of you Saying
    on lush:

    “Poured myself a glass of iced tea and went to sit on the back deck for a few minutes. Thought about putting a pair of shorts, but ended up going out in just my panties and a t-shirt (no bra) The sun felt great on my skin. With my head back, eyes closed and face to the warming rays, I soon began to lightly stroke my thighs. It was unlikely anyone could see me, but not impossible. It didn’t take long before my hand was between my legs, then inside my panties. My other hand made its way up under my shirt and teased my nipples erect. After toying with my clit briefly, I moved lower. Just as I was slipping a couple of fingers into my wet hole, the damn phone rang. I would have ignored it if it wasn’t my mother calling. I could smell my cunt on my fingers as I held the phone to my ear. By the time the call was finished, the moment was gone and I had to get on with other things. Maybe today I’ll have a chance to finish what I started…”Just maybe i get to read what you did out side on your deck in your little panties and that t shirt today
    just one nasty thought: I was in your back yard working as your handy man and you just blow it out your mind that I was out back working on your flower beds and when I turn around and look to see who was sitting on your deck I could see you with your legs open and in some little thin white panties your hand in them you were lost in la la land and you were lay back not knowing that I had been working out back all day all I could do was to just sit and watch you as you made love to your sexy bod and your hand deep in your panties and they became wet and damp. I had on some baggy long shorts no under shorts i put my own hand in the leg and stroked my cock oh it was hot see your hand deep in your panties and just as I was about to bust a nut watching you my dam phone rang I turn back around so just in case you heard it ring you would not see me looking at you I just keep looking away then I got up to talk on my dam phone i look around your back yard and then over your deck to see if you were still deep in your panties oh i hung up phone you were gone i could see in your house not far and seen you walking by the window looking outside Oh hope you got to cum in your panties before my Dam phone went off and fuck it up for you and me such a hot thing see you lie back your hand in your panties well better get back to work

    Kisskiss
    cumonmesweetpuss

    ps hope your flowers are doing better today

  2. I would have much rather grown (grew? grewedid? lol) up in an open, respectful, learning environment (which is ultimately what I tend to lean towards with regards to DMM’s goals here) then the repressed gongshow of an environment I had. I am forever impacted, as we all are, by how I was raised. There are times I want a do-over. I recently watched a close family member lead a nephew down the same path I was led, and my reaction was not, shall we say, healthy, in my disagreement of what he was being taught.

    Having said that, I admittedly can base my opinion only on what I have read here, and I really don’t get the sense of an attempt to sexualize.

    Also, FWIW, the ending of Cam Slut Mom could very well be the best conclusion of a erotic story I have read in a very very long time. Well done.

  3. I’m not the one who will tell you how you should run your life. But I disgreet with flower.

  4. Rachael , when I grew up nobody discussed sex with their kids mom was to embarrassed and dad didn’t have clue . So you learned from the street corners that is why I agree with the way you have started teaching your girls . Just take your time and when they have a question answer them truthfully even if you have to read up on it first . I have faith in you to do it right . as always have fun and be NAUGHTY

  5. I support your being open with your daughters and agree with everything you have said here. I think that in the long run it will make for better mother daughter relations (and no I don’t mean sexual). I think they will have a better view about their bodies as they grow up and will be more willing to discuss things with you about their bodies.

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